Personal growth

How to be free?

Valon Asani · · 1 min read

Valon Asani

Personal freedom and responsibility belong together in this reflection. I want to take my own thoughts and choices seriously, while giving other people less control over how I live. These reminders are the standards I am trying to practise.

Personal freedom and responsibility in practice

1) Responsibility – Be ultimately accountable for your thoughts and emotions – Do not point fingers towards anyone else – Say to yourself that you, and only you are responsible for anything and everything you think and feel 2) Don’t care – Don’t care to be liked by others – Don’t do things because of what others think – Even if you care – don’t react emotionally – choose the non-emotional response to any given situation   I know, very difficult.   But if you manage to make ‘just’ these two character traits yourself, you’ll be a different human. A free one.

One practical expression of responsibility is keeping the promises you make to yourself.

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