Don’t go all-in with someone who isn’t all in with you. Actions always speak louder than words, and if you go all in but your partner doesn’t, you’ll see that whenever your partner gets the chance to take action towards you, but doesn’t. There is always some excuse and reason he or she can’t do it.

You’ll always feel like you’re the only one trying. You need to see all-in actions from your partner for this to work. If not, don’t waste your time.

Find someone who is all in with you and will show it through their actions.

So, don’t put all your eggs in one basket with someone who isn’t doing the same. It’ll only lead to disappointment and a feeling of being unimportant.

It’s not worth it to go all-in with someone who can’t or won’t reciprocate your actions.

I’ve been there – in personal relationships and business relationships – and whenever there was an imbalance, I started feeling that the other one wasn’t all in with me. And sooner or later that brought the relationship to fall – if it was an important one.

Make sure that you and your partner both agree on the same things and you can count on each other. Red flags appear very soon, whenever it’s time to show commitment. Suddenly you see that there is not much action, not enough commitment and many many excuses and stories why they could not do X or Z.

Especially in hard times, it’s better to know who you can bet on – that will save you a lot of time, energy, and heartache.