A disappointment hurts. When the same kind keeps returning, I want to look at the pattern too. What am I expecting? What am I overlooking? What can I choose differently?
One difficult conversation or disappointing result does not tell the whole story. Look across the attempts. What did you ask for? What was agreed? What happened afterwards? Were there changes you could point to, or only another promise that things would be different?
Writing those observations down can make the pattern easier to discuss. Stay with what you know rather than trying to read someone else’s motives.
If you choose to try again, name what must be different and what remains within your control. Another attempt should have more behind it than the hope that the same conditions will suddenly produce another result.
You can also decide to stop. That does not require proving that every part of the experience was worthless. You may have learned what matters to you, what you need to say sooner or where a boundary belongs.
In the caption, I call disappointment a lesson rather than a punishment. The useful part of a lesson is what you can carry forward. Give that more attention than the effort to force a particular ending.
When the pattern concerns how you are treated, respect and mutual expectations give the conversation a concrete starting point.