No disrespect. No double standards. No rule that applies to you while I excuse myself. If I ask for respect, I have to live by it too.
Respect is easy to agree with as a word. It becomes more revealing when you describe what it means in an ordinary situation: keeping an agreement, hearing a no or allowing the other person the same freedom you expect for yourself.
Choose a specific example. If someone expects an immediate response from you but treats your time as unimportant, explain that difference. Stay with what happened and what you need. You do not have to diagnose the person to question the behaviour.
Then ask whether the expectation is mutual. Can both people disagree, ask for space or change a plan with the same consideration? Reciprocity does not mean every task must be identical. It means neither person gets to declare themselves exempt from basic respect.
A boundary can be stated plainly: “I want to discuss this, but I will stop the conversation if we start insulting each other.” That is an example of a response you control, rather than a promise that you can make someone else behave differently.
Pay attention to what follows the conversation. Does the behaviour change, or do you return to the same explanation every time? My point in the caption is direct: access to your life should not mean permission for repeated disrespect. You can take that seriously without turning every disagreement into a judgement about someone’s whole character.
Sometimes a boundary is already explicit. When someone blocks you, respecting it means changing your own next action.