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Limiting beliefs: put “I can’t” to the test

Valon Asani · · 2 min read

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“I can’t.” “It won’t work here.” “You need connections.” I hear those sentences around Kosovo. Before you let one decide your future, ask: have I actually tested it?

The useful next step is to make the claim specific. What exactly cannot be done? With which resources? What have you already tried? A concrete obstacle gives you something to work on. A vague verdict closes the conversation.

Write down one thing you want to do and the sentence that stops you. Then separate what you know from what you assume. “I need equipment I cannot currently afford” describes a constraint. “People like me never get a chance” turns that constraint into a story about your whole future.

Money, access and connections can matter. Recognising them gives you a starting point: find out the cost, ask about alternatives or speak to someone who understands the problem.

Choose one small action that gives you new information. Ask a potential customer a question. Make a simple example of your work. Find out which skill an opportunity actually requires.

Before you start, write down what you expect to happen. Afterwards, compare the result with that prediction. Even an unsuccessful attempt can tell you something more useful than an assumption you have never tested.

You do not need to declare that everything is possible. Pick one belief and give reality a chance to answer it.

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