Building in public boundaries protect the time and attention a project needs. This is my blunt reflection on that experience. My later post on hostile comments and useful feedback looks more closely at which responses deserve a place in the work.
Building in public boundaries
The world is full of miserable people: people who are spiritually bankrupt. They are tired, bitter, and hunting for someone else’s energy.
When you create something that works, they appear from all sides.
Be aware especially when building a successful company or new project.
Especially when building in public. Especially when you share your story out there. Especially if they think they can get something to fill their emptiness.
FOMO and greed will attract them.
Abundance of others will attract them.
Creative energy which they lack will attract them.
Just be aware that it will attract all kinds of people who don’t want the best for you. None of this is personal; it’s gravity. Success attracts good people, great people, but also a lot of parasites:
– People who feel entitled to take from you
– People who feel entitled to ask that you give to them for nothing
– Energy draining people
– Victim mentality people
– People who will try to use and abuse you
– People who can’t create anything successful themselves, so they’ll try to steal from you
– People who will gossip behind your back and share shit posts on social media
– People who will pretend that they are working for you
– People with mental health issues
– People who will try to create drama in your life
– People who will try to distract you from your growth and purpose
– People who have nothing better to do than damage you and use all kinds of ways to do so
Keep attention on the work you came to do
They are victims of life, because they identify as victims.
They could change if they decided to let go of that victim mentality.
But that takes actual work, not profiting on others work. They don’t like that.
So, they will always blame others for their fate and especially when you build in public, they see you as an easy target. They are used to judge, gossip and criticise – without ever creating any value for society.
They think because you made money, they are entitled to your success.
Be aware, set strong boundaries and starve them.
I know this post may sound harsh, but the reality is harsh, too.
Life will test you, stress test you and see if you learned the lessons.
The Lessons:
– Identify the energy vampires and get rid of them ASAP!
– Ruthless boundaries: Focus on yourself and your mission.
– Starve the noise. Don’t feed time or attention to these distractions.
– See beyond it and get the deeper meaning and lesson
– Which part of you attracted them in the first place? What needs still healing?
It’s not about them.
It’s not personal.
It’s just the universe testing you and seeing if you learned the lessons.
Be ready, be aware and be ruthless.
Most people will only learn their lessons once they hit rock bottom, until then they will play the victim and try to use and abuse successful people, because that’s how they survived.
Don’t play the hero, don’t try to safe them, most people need to hit rock bottom and it will do them actually really good, so they can start building and creating a good life.
Be aware.
